Tuesday, July 28, 2015

31 Things I've Learned

Today being the day I celebrate having spent 31 years on this planet, I thought I'd share some things I've learned in that time. Some of these little nuggets of wisdom are my opinion and may not apply to you, but most, I think, are worth sharing.

1. Your friends are the family you choose.
2. Relieving stress is all about the exhale.
3. People don't change. You can only evolve.
4. Not everyone will like you (and, God only knows, you won't like everyone you meet), and that's okay.
5. Generosity is the key to loving relationships (and I mean all of them, not just your other half).
6. Honesty really is the best policy. (Not always the best solution, though.)
7. You don't have to be besties with your co-workers. In fact, don't even go there.
8. For me personally, yoga is the best workout I've found so far.
9. We already have everything we need within us, we just have to remember.
10. Asking the universe for what you want really does work. It's like magic.
11. Vegas totally is as awesome as everyone says it is.
12. I love Disney more and more the older I get.
13. Inspiration is EVERWHERE!
14. Putting your feelings on paper is like therapy.
15. There is nothing more theraputic for a woman than time spent with her girlfriends.
16. Massages are essential.
17. Book stores are my church, stories my religion, and music my soul.
18. Sleep is the key to good health.
19. Most things you hated as a kid: baths, naps, early bedtimes, you love more the older you get.
20. You will never, ever find the same kind of meaningful relationship as the one you have with your sibling(s).
21. Our dreams and beliefs are like the stepping stones that get us through life. Don't ever sacrifice them for someone else.
22. Worry is poison.
23. Fear is essential. You can't have courage without fear.
24. There is nothing wrong with crying. Crying is to your soul what sweat is to your body.
25. Everyone has a dark side. There can't be light without the dark.
26. Find the things in life you are passionate about. Without passion your soul withers like a flower.
27. Life is not about being right. It's about what you can give to others.
28. When it comes to opinions, no one is ever right or wrong. They are simply different opinions.
29. If you didn't grow up with traditions, then start your own. They make life more memorable, and give you something to look forward to.
30. Words are so powerful they really can hurt.
31. The grass is never, ever greener. Don't waste your time comparing yourself or your life to someone else.

Tuesday, June 30, 2015

Dream House: Walls

Last month I posted inspiration for ceilings and I think the two should merge together (the first picture below is a really good example), but there are some really awesome ideas I found just for walls.

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Hein + Cozzi

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CW Eisner
(Custom Gracie wallpaper)

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CW Eisner
(Custom geometric design, by me, of two tones of faux leather fabric)

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CW Eisner
(Glass mosaic tiles, mirror, and faux finish paint)

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John Derian
(Such a cool idea, but unless you found a wallpaper, I don't even want to think about how much time this would take, or where the pages would come from!)

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Kara Paslay

Thursday, May 28, 2015

Dream House: Ceilings

The more I move into the architectural details of design (walls, floor, ceiling, etc.), the more I realize when looking at a photo of a room these details can go unnoticed, or fade into the background. I've been looking through so many photos over the last year for these posts that the idea of having to pick out photos purely for wall and ceiling details is daunting. I think I might have gone about this backwards. And it would make sense to decide on wall and floor and ceiling details first because that is what is built or finished first.

When it comes down to it I think I prefer dark wood flooring and high ceilings with a good amount of molding details all uniform in color with the walls (usually white). Pairing this with my taste in mixing contemporary furniture with antiques and it seems my style is decidedly French (and that first photo is a good example). I didn't do this on purpose, but there it is. The French do have great taste.

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Geoffrey Bradfield

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Wadia Associates

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Wednesday, May 13, 2015


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I’ve been feeling introspective lately. I think I used to feel that way all the time and now I don’t even keep a journal. I tried to do those 5-year journals to keep a record of my life, but I always get bored because nothing ever happens.

Someone that I thought was my friend recently called me boring and I had to fight back the irrational desire to burst into tears. I know it shouldn’t have hurt me. I have a feeling boring was not the adjective this person was searching for (I am not a tiresome, uninteresting person, thank you very much), but it’s still one of the meanest things anyone has said to me in a long time.  I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it either. Is my life boring? Am I boring? I know the use of the word boring automatically indicates opinion. There isn’t anything clinical or exact about referring to something or someone as boring. It is completely subjective. But I’m letting it get to me; one stupid word spoken by someone too selfish and emotionally immature to think before they speak. In this particular situation, the real issue came down to the question of how does one explain to an extrovert what it’s like to be an introvert?

For the first four months of this year I threw myself into finishing my novel. It’s the first part to a trilogy that I have been re-writing and re-writing for the past five years. I still have a ton of editing to do, but I feel that it is really done this time. And I feel remarkably empty inside like a piece of me has died. Everyone kept asking me this past week what I was going to do to celebrate and I honestly don’t have it in me to do such a thing. How do I “go out” and “do something fun” when I’ve become so accustomed to shutting myself off from the world all these years to write?

Perhaps I am boring.

Or, at least, my life has become so.

The truth is I get depressed when I don’t write. But I get depressed when I’ve been cut off from people for too long. And then I get overly touchy and moody when I’ve been around too many people for too long. This is the hardest part of being introverted. I know life is all about balance, and finding that balance is everyone’s greatest and most important journey. If we can’t find that balance then we’re never really living, we’re just treading water, hoping to stay afloat long enough for the tide to carry us to shore.

If this is how we are living, just barely surviving, waiting for life to come along and save us, I don’t think we’re going to be very happy with what is waiting on that shore.

I’m going off on a weird tangent, but basically this is how I’ve been living.

It’s getting old.

I’m ready for change.

Change that I make instead of letting life happen to me. We are all creators. We create our own happiness, or sadness, or anger, or worry. I want to start creating my own happy ending instead of waiting for it to magically stumble into my path. I suppose I could start with incorporating activities into my life that I find fun, not that someone else finds fun. I suppose I've lost sight of what I actually like to do besides sit at home on my weekends and write. I know it's going to take me a while, but it's a good place to start.

Monday, May 4, 2015

Star Wars Day

Happy Star Wars Day everyone! In honor of this most momentous day, check out this amazing digital art my brother has been working on for the occasion.

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Basically, he's painting over the image on the computer, and the incredible process takes days, but the end results are worth it. He produces such high-quality images that they can be printed on canvas up to 48" high x 108" wide. I recommend looking at the pieces up close here where you can zoom in to see the brush strokes. It's pretty cool! He also has a few other pieces available for purchase in addition to the two above including one of Darth Vader!  Enjoy!

And May the 4th be with you!

Thursday, March 19, 2015

Dream House: Staircases

I have an obsession with spiral staircases, as you might be able to tell from the photos below. I've always wanted one of those table top collectable miniatures. Gorgeous. As far as having a spiral staircase in my house, I think one would work nicely in a library, or perhaps even outdoors if you had a 1st to 2nd story patio...

When it comes to staircases in general, I'm attracted to anything different, anything that is not the typical carpeted straight span of stairs that was only built to get one from the first floor of an establishment to the 2nd floor. If I have stairs in my future house, needless to say, it will be a creative addition to the house.

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Jean-Louis Deniot

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Kelly Wearstler

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Simply Sun Signs
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